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Anna

Everything I need to know I learned at McDonald’s. Or Subway, as the case may be.

March 3, 2021 by sueboo

Almost a year ago, we told our eldest daughter she needed to get a “real” job. You know, a typical teenage gig at McDonald’s or something.

She had been teaching piano for almost two years out of our home, for which I was incredibly proud. And, heaven knows it pays far better than any fast food position.

However, there are some things one can only learn from a minimum wage job. The first being that one should develop a trade and get an education so that s/he is not relegated to minimum wage for the rest of one’s life.

Our biggest reason for wanting Anna to experience this rite of passage in life, however, was not necessarily typical. We just wanted her to do it because of how terrified she was of the entire process.

You see, Anna is pretty amazing at a whole lot of things. She excels in school (straight A’s for her entire school career), she’s an excellent test-taker (35 on the ACT, anyone?), she commits herself to living with integrity, she is a wicked good musician… I could go on and on.

And while I am SO proud of her and the fact that she strives for excellence in so many areas, I know that we build resilience by stepping out of our comfort zones. And one thing that is NOT comfortable for Anna? The art of applying for a job in customer service. And then working one.

There was no coercion. (It took her a year, after all). Just an explanation of the life skills she’d glean from the experience. And…a pulling of the plug on all financial support for extra-curriculars and such. Just so she could feel a little pinch.

And now she has a job at Subway. Her first few shifts were rough and she wanted to quit. But I held my ground and told her she could quit only if she had first secured another job.

It’s strange, but I’m almost more proud of her for this accomplishment than I am that she got a full-tuition scholarship to BYU. Why on earth? Because of how desperately hard it was for her.

Then, after a six-month stint making sandwiches, she’ll be well-equipped to apply for another “real job” working at BYU laundry. Or something like that.

The future is bright, Anna. The future is bright.

Posted in: Everyday life Tagged: Anna, parenting, teaching kids about money, teaching kids to work

A stay-at-home induction.

April 25, 2020 by sueboo

She wondered why I was taking pictures. She and Tim and I were just parked on a bean bag chair in front of her laptop after all.

But that’s what you do when school’s gone online for the rest of the year. Your National Honor Society induction ceremony is gonna look a little different, you know?

But that doesn’t mean a proud mama can’t post a picture or two of the moment just because we aren’t all dressed up and the honoree isn’t called up on stage to accept the accolade.

She earned it. Her initial application rejected likely because of the rushed manner in which she submitted it. (I suppose she figured that academic excellence carried the most weight and failed to mention a few service and leadership roles on her resume). Her appeal reflected more accurately the numerous bits of service she has contributed to the community in the last year.

She’s lucky they let her appeal. But I’m glad she had to put in a little extra for something for which she’s an obvious shoo-in. Things won too easily are seldom truly appreciated.

So there we sat staring at her laptop as they read her name and that of many friends, our hearts swelling with pride. Not just for the honor of her acceptance into an elite group. But even more for the humble appeal she submitted as evidence that she really wanted it.

What parent wouldn’t want to take a picture of that?

Posted in: Everyday life Tagged: Anna, national honor society, pandemic, proud parents

Winter/Spring 2020

March 13, 2020 by sueboo

Oh my. I’m so far behind schedule I’ve started lumping entire seasons together.

Well, Christmas happened.

Soon after the holidays, Anna jumped right into daily rehearsals for her school’s production of Les Miserables. Being a junior and not a senior, she didn’t stand much of a chance at snagging one of the leads. But she was pleased as punch to have a solo in “At the End of the Day”.

Photography was not allowed during the production but I managed to sneak into one or two dress rehearsals and snap a shot or two.

The production was WAY beyond a typical high school’s and brought me to tears. Anna literally looked like an angel in the final number and sounded like angel too, when her high soprano sailed into the heavens as she sang, “tomorrow comes”.

Although the kids got all the glory, the parents were no slackers either as we all got roped into one thing or another from building the set to arranging/mending costumes to heading up the dinner. I was in charge of the dessert auction-which is a HUGE fundraiser for the choir department. So no pressure.

Let’s just say I was glad when it was over.

I moved right from that into my second year of heading up our elementary school’s Art Night. With the help of some amazing volunteers, it went off without a hitch and thank the heavens, we managed to pull it off less than a week before the first case of coronavirus was diagnosed in the state of Idaho. Phew.

Posted in: Everyday life Tagged: Anna, elementary art night, Les Miserables

The blue dress.

October 17, 2019 by sueboo

It’s no secret that I like my toddlers more than more teenagers. Emphasis on the word “like”. Toddlers are just so much more agreeable, and even when they’re not, they boast a whole lot of cuteness to make up for it.

Still, I would have to say that I firmly believe that opposition spices up life. My struggle to raise teenagers and still “like” them provides the contrast I need to swell with pride at their successes. I can’t help but be their biggest fan.

Last night, Anna put on the “blue dress” for the first time. The blue dress isn’t just a pretty get-up, it is a symbol. A symbol that one has attained the highest level of choral excellence in our local high school. (Which pretty much has the best choir in the whole state).

Last night was her first concert wearing the “blue dress”. I’ve been attending these concerts for years in support of neighbors, young women I taught at church and so on. Anna came with me on many of those occasions. It surprised me how much pride I felt in my daughter, hearing her high soprano voice sailing above the others now that it was her turn to don the blue dress on that same stage.

The volatility of raising teenagers is real. But the satisfaction at observing their transformation into distinct almost-adults tops it a million times over. Watching them come into their own and magnify their talents is a parental privilege that for me defies description.

Posted in: Everyday life Tagged: Anna, choir, parenting, raising teenagers

The Anna Effect.

February 26, 2019 by sueboo

All younger siblings experience it, though it might be called a different name. It’s possible that the phenomena is particularly pronounced when one has multiple older brothers and/or sisters.

Sometimes it’s a good thing. Sometimes it’s not.

Luckily for my children, having an older sister blaze the trail for them works well in their favor. Why? Because she’s practically perfect in every way. (Exaggerating only slightly).

One might assume that having an older sister who sets such a high standard might actually be detrimental. That it might create disappointment in teachers when the younger sibling fails to measure up to said high standard.

Not so, friends. If you are lucky enough to be Anna’s younger sister, her good grades and exceptional behavior actually have residual effects. Effects that bestow long-lasting favor upon the younger sibling.

Lily was just telling me that most of her straight-A student friends got a B in a particular class taught by a notoriously difficult teacher at her school. What did Lily get? An “A” of course. Not by her own merits, she says. It was the “Anna Effect”.

It’s so bad (or good, depending on how you look at it) that when I went to Parent-Teacher conferences on behalf of Lily, her math teacher first asked about Anna before moving on to discuss Lily’s performance.

Lily doesn’t mind, because, as she puts it, her grade is boosted by being Anna’s younger sister. She even credits a passing grade on an assignment on which she did nothing right with the teacher simply liking her. Why does he like her? Because of Anna, of course.

I, too, had an older sibling. Fortunately, I neither felt I had to rise to a standard of perfection set by him, nor did I benefit academically from his achievements in school.

In fact, the “Eric effect” looked more like this:

Kid at school: “You’re Eric’s sister, right?”

Me: “Yeah, but most people call me Susie.”

What Eric lacked in academic discipline (smart though he is), he more than made up for in social status. Though, admittedly, a fair share of females attempted to befriend me in order to get their claws on my brother, for the most part I benefited from an expanded social circle thanks to “The Eric Effect”.

Sure, oldest children are more successful, statistically speaking. But younger siblings don’t have to work as hard. We have our older counterparts to thank for that. But then…that’s probably why they’re more successful, right? Everything on their own merits.

Eh, I’d still rather be a 2nd child. I have a feeling Lily feels the exact same way.

Posted in: Everyday life Tagged: Anna, Lily, siblings

The birthday that never ends.

March 30, 2018 by sueboo

Anna’s birthday falls on spring break almost every single year.  This occasionally poses a problem when trying to schedule a birthday party, or when your friends want to decorate your locker, or give you an embarrassing tiara to wear at school all day long.  So a month ago in family council we asked Anna what she would prefer: Skip a half day of school to drive to Portland on her birthday?  Or go to school and leave the next day to drive all the way to the coast?  (We’d booked a campsite for the following night).  She opted for Portland.  She apparently got the “introvert” genes in the family.  Or the “avoid embarrassment at all costs” genes.

Either way, we had to space our birthday traditions over several days to accommodate our plans.  Early Friday morning, we ate her birthday breakfast, sang “happy birthday”, ate a Costco cake (clearly not the “real, homemade” cake that was still to come), opened presents and went around the table telling what we love about her.  We then headed out the door to Oregon.

The following Friday night, we took her out to eat for her birthday dinner.  Then, finally, on Sunday, we indulged in her chosen birthday cake – a brownie chocolate chip cookie dough cheesecake.  Thank heaven Pinterest did not fail me on this one.  Delish.

As a bonus, her young women leaders invaded her room the day before her birthday to decorate it with streamers, balloons and chocolate.  Lots of it.  Boy, this girl is LOVED.

As a parent, I knew I would love the baby/toddler/preschool years.  And I have.  Little ones are so easy to love.  What I didn’t anticipate is how fun having teenagers can be.  Anna is a gem.  She’s steady, diligent, and has a solid knowledge of who she is gained through faithful study of the word of God.  In a world where many teens couldn’t care less about what really matters, Anna has got her head on straight.  She is a joy to raise and I look forward to seeing where her desire to seek out the good will take her.  Happy Birthday to my beautiful firstborn!

Posted in: Everyday life Tagged: Anna, birthdays, raising teenagers

Magnify those talents.

March 17, 2017 by sueboo

As a child I think I took a grand total of three years worth of piano lessons.  I started young, but am unsure of how, when or why formal lessons became a thing of the past.  Somehow, I kept playing, despite my inexperience.  I attribute it to my insatiable appetite for singing – and the absence of anyone else in my family capable of accompanying my melodies.  Where there’s a will, there’s a way, though for me, that way involved a whole lot of fudging the bass clef and playing many an errant note.

Somehow I made it to adulthood with those meager lessons tucked under my belt and, aside from playing the keyboard for a few recordings I made with a friend in college, didn’t really develop my piano-playing ability any further.  Then, as many a Mormon missionary in a foreign country can attest, I got to try my hand at every hymn in the book practically every Sunday for 18 months straight because I WAS THE BEST THEY COULD FIND.  (Except for the three months I was being trained because I actually had a companion who could play better than me).  Those poor Taiwanese people.

When I came home, and later got married, Tim and I were fortunate to have a piano loaned to us by his grandmother until we moved to Boise, so I got to fool around on the keys, but again, not to hone my piano skills but to accompany myself singing my favorite tunes.  Still, I considered a piano a fixture in any decent home, so within a year of moving to Boise and purchasing our first home, we found a great little upright on craigslist and have had it ever since.

Those early years of motherhood did not exactly facilitate piano practice.  At the first hint of a note, some lovable toddler would find her way into the living room and bang out her version of Ode to Joy.  At least one of us was joyful.  And it wasn’t as if I were about to take a chance on practicing during naptime at the risk of waking said toddler(s).  Heaven knows I needed that time to last as long as humanly possible.

My wish list always included a whole host of piano songbooks from Broadway to Disney (not so much classical – remember the whole part about only wanting to sing along?), most of which I have now acquired, though they for some time collected dust on the shelf, waiting for a more accommodating time.  The early lesson books I used to teach my littles beginning piano got much more use, as did the piano, now that the toddlers had become grade-schoolers capable of reading music and practicing to their hearts’ content.  Naptime was still sacred so I was relegated to an occasional Sunday evening for a little dabbling in piano fun.

And all of sudden the piano players suddenly moved out of our ward congregation at church.  And the most accomplished one who was left behind was called as the choir director.  I asked her, “Who the heck are you going to get to accompany the choir?”  She gave me a “deer-in-the-headlights” sort of look and mentioned inviting a couple of the youth to do a song or two.  I offered my services, to lighten the load, not realizing at all that I had pretty much just signed up to be the “official” accompanist.

To go from playing painfully imperfect accompaniment for oneself on occasion to accompanying a choir in front of a couple hundred people was a steep learning curve, let me tell you.  I came home from choir practice every Sunday with a massive headache and a fervent commitment to practice every spare moment I could find.  My embarrassment at my inadequacy was palpable, though I plugged through over a year’s worth of accompanying and realized that I had witnessed a miracle.  I played pieces I could never have dreamed of playing because I had committed myself to serve and the Lord made up the difference.  Boy, did He make up the difference.

That was about five years ago.  I still teach my youngest grade-schooler beginning piano, and have passed my older daughters off to experienced teachers.  They will inevitably surpass me in skill, owing to my utter lack of technique.  Still, I am given opportunities to volunteer in my kids’ schools, most recently by accompanying the choir and guess what, I actually LIKE playing the piano.  For the sake of playing the piano, not just so I can sing along.  And I’m not too bad either.

Most recently, I accompanied Lily’s 5th/6th grade choir as they sang on the floor of the Idaho State Senate at the Capitol building.  Then, I played for Anna’s benefit concert, a bunch of songs from Sound of Music and Into the Woods.  I’m learning that nerves will always be part of the package but that perfection is not the goal.  While practice is absolutely vital for one so inexperienced, I know that an errant note or two is not going to make or break the song because I am not the main attraction.  I just have to make the choir(or soloist, as the case may be) sound good by not royally screwing up.

Lastly, I am grateful that I get to use my talents and see them flourish as I use them in selfless ways.  As a young performer, I daresay it was all about the glory.  As an old(er) behind-the-scenes accompanist, I get to enjoy the fruits of giving the glory to someone else.  Which, counterintuitively, is a really great place to be.

Strangely, though this post was pretty much all about me, THIS girl here was amazing. I got compliments about her being everyone’s “favorite” left and right. She was my favorite, too. Anna performed “On the Steps of the Palace” from Into the Woods.

Getting a tour of the Capitol before the performance.

Soaking in the rays while waiting for the bus ride home from the Capitol.

Posted in: Everyday life Tagged: Anna, choir performance, Lily, piano, talents

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