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The Anna Effect.

February 26, 2019 by sueboo

All younger siblings experience it, though it might be called a different name. It’s possible that the phenomena is particularly pronounced when one has multiple older brothers and/or sisters.

Sometimes it’s a good thing. Sometimes it’s not.

Luckily for my children, having an older sister blaze the trail for them works well in their favor. Why? Because she’s practically perfect in every way. (Exaggerating only slightly).

One might assume that having an older sister who sets such a high standard might actually be detrimental. That it might create disappointment in teachers when the younger sibling fails to measure up to said high standard.

Not so, friends. If you are lucky enough to be Anna’s younger sister, her good grades and exceptional behavior actually have residual effects. Effects that bestow long-lasting favor upon the younger sibling.

Lily was just telling me that most of her straight-A student friends got a B in a particular class taught by a notoriously difficult teacher at her school. What did Lily get? An “A” of course. Not by her own merits, she says. It was the “Anna Effect”.

It’s so bad (or good, depending on how you look at it) that when I went to Parent-Teacher conferences on behalf of Lily, her math teacher first asked about Anna before moving on to discuss Lily’s performance.

Lily doesn’t mind, because, as she puts it, her grade is boosted by being Anna’s younger sister. She even credits a passing grade on an assignment on which she did nothing right with the teacher simply liking her. Why does he like her? Because of Anna, of course.

I, too, had an older sibling. Fortunately, I neither felt I had to rise to a standard of perfection set by him, nor did I benefit academically from his achievements in school.

In fact, the “Eric effect” looked more like this:

Kid at school: “You’re Eric’s sister, right?”

Me: “Yeah, but most people call me Susie.”

What Eric lacked in academic discipline (smart though he is), he more than made up for in social status. Though, admittedly, a fair share of females attempted to befriend me in order to get their claws on my brother, for the most part I benefited from an expanded social circle thanks to “The Eric Effect”.

Sure, oldest children are more successful, statistically speaking. But younger siblings don’t have to work as hard. We have our older counterparts to thank for that. But then…that’s probably why they’re more successful, right? Everything on their own merits.

Eh, I’d still rather be a 2nd child. I have a feeling Lily feels the exact same way.

Posted in: Everyday life Tagged: Anna, Lily, siblings

Fancy gift wrap and happy birthdays.

February 2, 2018 by sueboo

Here’s one of many examples of how presentation rests rather low on my list of priorities:

I couldn’t care less about wrapping paper.  I can appreciate a well-wrapped present, when someone else does it.  But when it comes to wrapping my own, I’d just as soon use up a few old scraps to avoid the waste.  My practical side wins out just about every time.  On the other hand, I let Jack assist me in this particular package, resulting in several errant pieces of Scotch tape.  So much for avoiding waste.

Lily didn’t seem to mind, as she tore open present after present in celebration of her thirteenth birthday.  Another teenager in the house…I’m still bracing for impact.

She spent a rather ordinary day at school, went home with a friend to watch her very first PG-13 movie (yep, we hold the line at our house right up until they turn the ripe old age of 13), and we joined together in the evening for cake and ice cream and presents.  Where I lack in gift-wrapping I more than make up for in dessert-making.  This particular beauty has become the dessert du jour at our house.

It’s been requested three times in the last year, making it our most popular model of birthday cake to date.  Pretty labor-intensive too.  Nothing says I love you like a five-layer chocolate peanut butter cheesecake, two days in the making.  (The irony of it all is that I’m currently on a refined sugar hiatus so I didn’t eat so much as a smidgen of the delicacy.)

Thirteen is a big year in our house, yielding some major benefits including a new email address, access to one social media platform, a new checking account and permission to view PG-13 movies (Lily’s personal favorite).  Hopefully Lily will assume her new “responsibilities” with wisdom and prudence.  We shall see.

Lily is an easy one to celebrate.  She never fails to express gratitude for even the small things so gift-giving is an absolute joy.  For each birthday, we all take turns telling the birthday girl (or boy) one of our favorite things about her/him.  I told Lily that I adore how she find the silver lining in everything.  For instance, I couldn’t get up to make her birthday breakfast this morning.

Literally, I couldn’t get up.  I developed a crazy crick in the neck the night before and it pretty much disabled me for almost 24 hours.  Tim was tactful enough to suggest that it was age-related.  Humph.

Anyway, my point is, Lily relegated herself to pouring a bowl of cereal without complaint.  She rarely gets ruffled when plans change and is quick to find something with which to console herself.  This morning it was Lucky Charms, no doubt.

I love that resilience and I hope it carries her through her teenage years.  And well beyond.  Happy Birthday Lily!

Posted in: Everyday life Tagged: birthdays, Lily, Lily birthday

Thank heaven for good insurance.

October 16, 2017 by sueboo

October brought more than gorgeous fall foliage and fruit harvest.  Lily’s seizures had returned, though different than before and it was time to get some diagnostics on what was going on.  We scheduled an EEG to figure it all out.  A week later, we got a call from the technician who administered the test, informing us that all of the measurements taken had completely disappeared from their files.  Wait, what?!!  She said that, in her many years of employment, EEG results had only disappeared one other time.  Lucky Lily,  She got to go in twice, which is no small thing because it means having to deprive oneself of sleep before the test in order to induce seizures.  She was a pretty awesome sport about it, thankfully.


Jack also got a pamidronate infusion during October.  He was an absolute champ and barely whimpered when they inserted the IV needle.  I couldn’t believe the change I saw in him and it was heartening to see him mature before my very eyes.  That was the easy part, though.  For three days I got to chase the active toddler around with an IV pole – not exactly a cake walk.  At least he can now sit through an episode of Daniel Tiger’s Neighborhood without interruption.  For once I am truly thankful for screen time.

Posted in: Everyday life, Osteogenesis Imperfecta Tagged: EEG, infusion, Jack, Lily, medical, pamidronate

A break for Lily and me.

June 14, 2017 by sueboo

You know that time you wrote a lengthy blog post about a fun experience you got to have with your second-born which you subsequently deleted?  No?  Well I do.  So let’s just hope that in this case a picture is worth a thousand words.  Sixth-grade field trip with Lily was awesome.  The end.

Posted in: Everyday life Tagged: EFT, Lily, sixth grade field trip

Magnify those talents.

March 17, 2017 by sueboo

As a child I think I took a grand total of three years worth of piano lessons.  I started young, but am unsure of how, when or why formal lessons became a thing of the past.  Somehow, I kept playing, despite my inexperience.  I attribute it to my insatiable appetite for singing – and the absence of anyone else in my family capable of accompanying my melodies.  Where there’s a will, there’s a way, though for me, that way involved a whole lot of fudging the bass clef and playing many an errant note.

Somehow I made it to adulthood with those meager lessons tucked under my belt and, aside from playing the keyboard for a few recordings I made with a friend in college, didn’t really develop my piano-playing ability any further.  Then, as many a Mormon missionary in a foreign country can attest, I got to try my hand at every hymn in the book practically every Sunday for 18 months straight because I WAS THE BEST THEY COULD FIND.  (Except for the three months I was being trained because I actually had a companion who could play better than me).  Those poor Taiwanese people.

When I came home, and later got married, Tim and I were fortunate to have a piano loaned to us by his grandmother until we moved to Boise, so I got to fool around on the keys, but again, not to hone my piano skills but to accompany myself singing my favorite tunes.  Still, I considered a piano a fixture in any decent home, so within a year of moving to Boise and purchasing our first home, we found a great little upright on craigslist and have had it ever since.

Those early years of motherhood did not exactly facilitate piano practice.  At the first hint of a note, some lovable toddler would find her way into the living room and bang out her version of Ode to Joy.  At least one of us was joyful.  And it wasn’t as if I were about to take a chance on practicing during naptime at the risk of waking said toddler(s).  Heaven knows I needed that time to last as long as humanly possible.

My wish list always included a whole host of piano songbooks from Broadway to Disney (not so much classical – remember the whole part about only wanting to sing along?), most of which I have now acquired, though they for some time collected dust on the shelf, waiting for a more accommodating time.  The early lesson books I used to teach my littles beginning piano got much more use, as did the piano, now that the toddlers had become grade-schoolers capable of reading music and practicing to their hearts’ content.  Naptime was still sacred so I was relegated to an occasional Sunday evening for a little dabbling in piano fun.

And all of sudden the piano players suddenly moved out of our ward congregation at church.  And the most accomplished one who was left behind was called as the choir director.  I asked her, “Who the heck are you going to get to accompany the choir?”  She gave me a “deer-in-the-headlights” sort of look and mentioned inviting a couple of the youth to do a song or two.  I offered my services, to lighten the load, not realizing at all that I had pretty much just signed up to be the “official” accompanist.

To go from playing painfully imperfect accompaniment for oneself on occasion to accompanying a choir in front of a couple hundred people was a steep learning curve, let me tell you.  I came home from choir practice every Sunday with a massive headache and a fervent commitment to practice every spare moment I could find.  My embarrassment at my inadequacy was palpable, though I plugged through over a year’s worth of accompanying and realized that I had witnessed a miracle.  I played pieces I could never have dreamed of playing because I had committed myself to serve and the Lord made up the difference.  Boy, did He make up the difference.

That was about five years ago.  I still teach my youngest grade-schooler beginning piano, and have passed my older daughters off to experienced teachers.  They will inevitably surpass me in skill, owing to my utter lack of technique.  Still, I am given opportunities to volunteer in my kids’ schools, most recently by accompanying the choir and guess what, I actually LIKE playing the piano.  For the sake of playing the piano, not just so I can sing along.  And I’m not too bad either.

Most recently, I accompanied Lily’s 5th/6th grade choir as they sang on the floor of the Idaho State Senate at the Capitol building.  Then, I played for Anna’s benefit concert, a bunch of songs from Sound of Music and Into the Woods.  I’m learning that nerves will always be part of the package but that perfection is not the goal.  While practice is absolutely vital for one so inexperienced, I know that an errant note or two is not going to make or break the song because I am not the main attraction.  I just have to make the choir(or soloist, as the case may be) sound good by not royally screwing up.

Lastly, I am grateful that I get to use my talents and see them flourish as I use them in selfless ways.  As a young performer, I daresay it was all about the glory.  As an old(er) behind-the-scenes accompanist, I get to enjoy the fruits of giving the glory to someone else.  Which, counterintuitively, is a really great place to be.

Strangely, though this post was pretty much all about me, THIS girl here was amazing. I got compliments about her being everyone’s “favorite” left and right. She was my favorite, too. Anna performed “On the Steps of the Palace” from Into the Woods.

Getting a tour of the Capitol before the performance.

Soaking in the rays while waiting for the bus ride home from the Capitol.

Posted in: Everyday life Tagged: Anna, choir performance, Lily, piano, talents

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